Want to get my attention?

Babs, Mumsy and I hit the cocktail circuit the other night. Many Apple Martinis, a few beers and some of the Lucky Coqs fine pizzas later and I admitted to a/ being mildly smitten* over someone and b/ being ok with that. This got many titters from both of them since I have been something of a monk over the last year or so. This lead the conversation to what it was that had finally gotten my attention.

There are a few obvious things – handsome face, worked out masculine body, sense of humor – and Mr MakeMeSmitten has these (although he is younger than my usual prey base) but in fact it was some things he did and said that got my motor running. It was how he thinks.

So here is a quick list of things that get my attention 

• Don’t be afraid of your sexuality, or other peoples. Flirt back, even if you don’t plan to sleep with them
• Have friends who are different from you I age, race, gender, sexuality and body composition
• Read, listen to and/or watch the news from multiple sources
• Have strong opinions, be prepared to explain them and encourage others to do the same. Especially if there’s are different
• Be prepared to change your mind. Admit to it
• Smile at strangers
• Help old ladies cross the road
• Give flowers for no reason
• Sometimes cook with butter, oil and cream. They are delicious
• Write to your political representatives and express your opinion. And sometimes to thank them for doing their job
• Be gracious about your power. Your wealth or beauty is luck more than good management on your part
• Make mistakes, make amends and let others do the same
• Never give up loving someone, even when they don’t appear to deserve it
• Have lived in many countries and love to travel
• Travel to experience, not simply to tick boxes
• Be good at laundry, cause it aint my bag
• Hold hands because it feels good, not to make a fuss
• Fetishes are fun, not a lifestyle
• Sex as fun and laughter as more important than fucking
• Orgasms are great, but not the only end goal. And the other persons in more important than yours
• Tip waiters and thank bus drivers
• Never accept that your horizons are wide enough
• Believe in moderation in all things, mot especially moderation. Everyone should be a pig, a slut and a lush from time to time
• Consider driving a luxury, not an entitlement
• Recycle and use recycled products like toilet paper. You butt maybe pretty but it’s still shit
• Use green energy, because there will hopefully be future generations – even if we are not going to personally breed them
• Talk about problems, don’t hide from them. Believe you will be forgiven
• Want to teach as much as you want to learn
• Sing along with Kylie, and know the words
• Dance like you are Kylie, and yet remain masculine. The two are not mutually exclusive.
• Grooming is fine, but over grooming just kills it. Leave something to chance, its much sexier being yourself.
• Especially leave your eyebrows alone

This list certainly isn’t exhaustive, but its a good start and gives you an idea where my head is at.

* Its not going anywhere. He’s married, and unlike some people I could name, that is a barrier I am not willing to cross.